I think ethical truth may be my favorite category of truth. Unlike scientific truth that needs to measure and quantify or logical truth that is simply looking for what is most reasonable, ethical truth searches for what is right. I think I also love the irony that this form of truth can be taught through fable.
Here’s a look at how I apply ethical truth to same gender marriage.
I think the biggest issue I see is deciding if same gender marriage is about what is best for individuals, or what is best for society as a whole. If we are looking at what is right for the individual, there really isn’t any argument against same gender marriage. It allows the individuals involved to freely commit and form legally recognized units of society. It promotes financial stability and gives rights and benefits to the individuals forming these relationships. For the individual, the benefit is huge.
Unfortunately, I believe that arriving at ethical truth requires promoting the maximum good possible, and that is where I see same gender marriage failing — it does not benefit society as well as a stable heterosexual marriage.
Why Isn’t Same Gender Marriage as Beneficial?
To me, it is the effect on the rising generation.
In a previous post, I have discussed that, like divorce and other circumstances, children of same gender marriages are deprived of their biological roots. This creates instability in the child. This reason alone means that we are not giving children the best we can.
Also, I have seen played out over and over again the ethical truth that thoughts become deeds, deeds become habit, etc. I doubt we have any reliable means of measuring my hunch, but I suspect that the number of romantic same gender relationships in America are on the rise. Why? Because it is more acceptable to contemplate and dwell on the idea that homosexual relationships can be explored. I am NOT making a value judgement at this point, but illustrating that a societal boundary has been removed. As thoughts become patterned in the brain, acting on those thoughts becomes more likely. Behaviors that become wired in the brain are harder to change, especially behaviors that are associated with pleasure. Once behaviors become habit, the difficulty increases.
Please note that I am NOT referring to everyone who tends toward homosexuality, but only those who might have lived successfully fulfilled as heterosexuals, but decided to “try out” an “alternative lifestyle” and then class themselves as bisexual/gay.
How do Arrive at the Conclusion that Heterosexual Marriages and Relationships are Better?
They can form full family units with minimal intrusion by anyone else — medical professionals, government agencies (adoption, lawsuits, etc.) — and are therefore likely to be more stable. They allow children to be anchored not only emotionally, but biologically to the people who brought them into existence and are the most likely to be invested in their well-being. The linking of generations is powerful, and beneficial to individuals and societies by creating the environment most likely to create well-adjusted citizens.
Aren’t You Leaving Some Things Out?
If you are referring to the mess that heterosexuals have made of marriage and family, yes, I am this week. I touched on it last week, and I will hopefully touch on it in more detail in two weeks when I wrap this series up. I have also not touched on the issue of infertility in heterosexual marriages, and will spend a little time there in two weeks, as well.
This is part of an on-going series that began when I had been called a bigot and a hater one too many times in social media. The other posts can be found here: